About Dee

I’m Dee, founder of Dee Codes Grief—a life, grief, and abundance coach who turns hard-won lessons into practical tools for people whose losses don’t fit society’s neat boxes.

My first brush with disenfranchised grief came when I chose estrangement from my mother to protect my own growth as a single mom. Years later, the circle closed when my own son needed distance. That lived contrast, being both the child who leaves and the parent who’s left, taught me that every side of estrangement carries real pain and real responsibility.

Since then I’ve walked (sometimes crawled) through separating from a violent partner, divorce, leaving a high-control religious group, losing a career, and starting over more times than I can count. Each restart sharpened the questions I've asked clients: Where does ego keep you stuck? What truth are you avoiding? What new story could you write if you faced it head-on?

Why trust me?

• Certified Life, Grief & Abundance Coach
• Social Worker with frontline experience supporting families in crisis
• Former psychology student with ongoing trauma-informed training
• Author of The Abundance Playbook and the forthcoming memoir The Wrong Kind of Rescue
• Creator of reflection-driven grief workbooks used by adults of any age

My approach in a nutshell

Blunt but warm. Kind yet uncompromising. I’ll hold your hand when traditional grief hits, and then hold up the mirror when disenfranchised grief demands radical honesty. Expect ego-dismantling exercises, compassionate accountability, and a steady reminder that evolving beliefs is a super-power, not a flaw.

Beyond the page

When I’m not writing or coaching, you’ll find me dissecting college-basketball plays, scheming up a food-truck dream with my husband, or hunting for the perfect coffee spots and park backdrops for photo-ops during our travels to Comic-Cons and reptile shows.

Ready to decode your own grief story?
If you haven't already, grab my free Grief Cheat Sheet—a quick-start guide to understanding and honoring the losses the world overlooks. Download it below and take your first step toward honest healing.

Together, we’ll rewrite the grief story.

-Dee